Beware a Very Real Danger to Your Ministry . . .

When it comes to Children’s Ministry there are many things we have to be aware of and on guard for, such as child safety issues, recruiting and training volunteers, communicating with parents and grandparents, discipline in the classroom, keeping the church aware of what is happening in the Children’s Ministry, and the list goes on. But one thing you may not think about, yet is something which should be at the top of your list, is gossip. Gossip is insidious and causes so much damage. If you are not very, very careful, gossip will destroy your ministry and cause very real damage to people.

My friend, Maralee McKee, the Manner’s Mentor, posted about gossip on her blog. She said, “About to say something about someone who isn’t in the room? Just to be on the safe (gracious) side, ask yourself two questions first.

1. Is what I’m going to say positive? If so, go right ahead!
2. If it’s not positive, am I saying it to protect others from harm this person might cause them or those close to them? Does it protect the people I’m going to tell in any way? If not, then do they really need to be in the know about it-probably not. 

The questions are a good litmus test to help us know if our words are beneficial or gossip.” 

Maralee is absolutely correct. You must be aware and on-guard against gossip, because if you are not, you put your ministry, and people, at risk. Consider the following –

• When you and/or a group of people are talking about someone else and are sharing private information which the person has NOT given permission for you to share . . . it is gossip. Period.
• While sometimes gossip might be the truth, most often it is not . . . or at least it is less than accurate. When we say things which are flat untrue, or at least inaccurate, we cause damage to others.
• Trying to “cover” gossip by calling it, “sharing prayer requests” or worse, by leaders in a church who “cover” their gossip by calling it, “getting on the same page” or “determining our response”, or defend it as “part of my ‘job description'”, doesn’t change it. It is still gossip and it causes damage to others.

Gossip destroys your ministry because it makes it an unsafe place. How can people trust your ministry if you, other volunteers, and/or church leaders gossip? The answer is, they can not. Commit to the following when it comes to gossip . . .